Totally Unauthorized

A side of the film industry most people never see.

The most painful time of year

Once again, it’s the tail end of the ‘dry season’, and my savings haven’t quite managed to stretch (mostly due to some car issues), so I turned to the Motion Picture and Television Fund for an emergency grant so I can pay my rent and, you know,  maintain a place to live.

The times I’ve had to use this option in the past, the Fund have been wonderful and compassionate, but this time I guess they’re dealing with more folks in trouble, because there’s very little compassion (or basic politeness) to be found.

The intake person cheerfully suggested I contact homeless shelters in case I got turned down for a grant (after asking if I had ‘any friends who would give me money’),  and the social worker, in the initial phone call, sternly reminded me of all that I’ve ‘taken from’ the fund in the past and that he’d have to ‘carefully consider’ if the fund wanted to give me any more help.

Great job guys. Way to make me feel like less of a piece of crap. Appreciate it.

I’m fairly certain they’re going to turn me down this time – just a hunch, mind you.

With work not due to start up for a couple of more weeks (my work texts have yielded nothing but other people looking for work, too), I’m starting to go into panic mode.

Unemployment have been waiting as long as possible to pay out claims (although a friend who was having trouble with them last year says they’re being great this year – guess I’m just in the group they’re picking on this time), I may have to pay my landlord in two (or three) installments.

I hate doing this. I hate even having to think about doing this.

The last thing I want is for the guy who owns the building to start thinking I’m not good for the rent. That can’t go anywhere good.

Hopefully work will surprise me and pick up early.  Work needs to pick up early.

Just not to end on such a maudlin tone, I have good news and an informal poll:


First, the good news – I may be just about destitute but at least I’ve got a date. Another broke deadbeat whom I met at one of LA’s  numerous free movie screenings. Hooray me!

Also, I’ve been invited to a friend’s birthday party, then informed that I’ll be expected to pay about $70 ‘to help defray costs’. Times are tough all over, but my initial inclination is to be offended about this.

What do you think?

Filed under: dating, life in LA, Los Angeles, Non-Work, overspending

7 Responses

  1. Annika says:

    Wait, WHAT? It’s one thing if someone has a birthday dinner at a restaurant–I’d expect to pick up my own tab. But SEVENTY DOLLARS? To DEFRAY COSTS? That “friend” needs to take a long hard look in the mirror and get the fuck over him/herself.

  2. Russel says:

    Agreed, it’s cool to ask $10 – $20, but $70!!! Way to hit your friends when they’re down. I’d pass if it were me, especially being unemployed. Unless it’s an important friend who might lead to more work. If not…tell them you’ll make the next one. :-)

  3. Cole Matson says:

    I wouldn’t say “offended”, but I would say the request is a breach of birthday-party etiquette. If you invite friends to a party to celebrate your own event, you pay the costs. If you can’t afford it, don’t throw such a large party. In this case, I’d say it’s reasonable for you to say you can’t afford to come – and the friend ought not to be offended about that.

  4. Dave2 says:

    That would more likely “defray” my friendship with them.

  5. Sounds like a new way to come up with the rent…

  6. Clearly I’ve never used WordPress before – from my other comment:

    You shouldn’t have to pay anything to attend a party – or you should have been told ahead of accepting.

    Emily Post is turning in her grave.

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